Female
Ejaculation:
What it is and how to do it.
History
If
you were to refer to literature over the last 50 years you would be lead
to believe that females have only been able to ejaculate since about 1980.
Of course this is absurd, and just shows how "the experts" can
be wrong for decades on just about anything. Many knew the experts were
wrong, but had little success in convincing anyone. Needless to say this
lead to many problems, needless surgery (to fix the poor women who would
ejaculate), expensive counselling (got to find out what happened when they
were children to cause this "problem"), and in some cases
divorce. "The G Spot" by Alice Kahn Ladas, Beverly Whipple, and
John D. Perry, has dozens of letters from women who went though various
personal tragedies because they would ejaculate during lovemaking.
Doctors, gynaecologists, and psychiatrists invariably told them they were
peeing and needed either surgery or psychotherapy.
Newsweek
published an article entitled "Just How the Sexes Differ" in May
of 1981. One of the major difference was listed was that men ejaculate,
but women do not. However, Aristotle wrote about female ejaculation, and
Galen knew about it in the second century. The female prostate, which
generates the fluid which is ejaculated, was described in some detail by
De Graaf in his "New Treatise Concerning the Generative Organs of
Women". (1) "... during the sexual act it discharges to
lubricate the tract so copiously that it even flows outside the pudenda.
This is the matter which may have been taken to be actual female
semen." He describes the fluid as "rushing out" with
"impetus" and "in one gush." (2)
The
medical community was finally awakened in 1980 when Perry and Whipple
showed a film of a female ejaculating to the SSSS (Society for the
Scientific Study of Sex). Martin Weisberg, M.D., a gynecologist at Thomas
Jefferson University Hospital in Philadelphia responded, "Bull ... I
spend half my waking hours examining, cutting apart, putting together,
removing, or rearranging female reproductive organs. There is no female
prostrate, and women don't ejaculate."
Yet after seeing the film and witnessing the event in person he changed his
tune: "The vulva and vagina were normal with no abnormal masses or
spots. The urethra was normal. Everything was normal. She then had her
partner stimulate her by inserting two fingers into the vagina and stroking
along the urethra lengthwise. To our amazement, the area began to swell. It
eventually became a firm one by two cm oval area distinctly different from
the rest of the vagina. In a few moments the subject seemed to perform a
Valsalva maneuver (bearing down as if starting to defecate) and seconds
later several cc's of milky fluid shot out the urethra. The material
analysis described in the paper (Perry & Whipple's) is correct, its
composition was closest to prostatic fluid".
Fluid
Characteristics
The ejaculate is very much like prostrate fluid. It is
usually clear, or milky and as thin as water. It does not have the look,
smell or taste of urine. It is almost odorless. The taste varies, depending
on the time of the month and diet, and possibly other factors, such as
amount of stimulation received prior to ejaculating or time since the last
ejaculation. It can vary from an almost honey sweet, sour, bitter, or a
combination of these tastes.
Even though it is ejaculated from the urethra, it is most definitely not
urine. It is absolutely impossible to pee during a orgasm unless there is a
weak pubococcygeus muscle. This is very important, and it is important for
the female and her partner to both understand this. The pubococcygeus muscle
contracts when terminating a stream of urine, and is the muscle which
contracts during orgasm. This contraction helps prevent retrograde
ejaculation (ejaculation back into the bladder), and of course prevents the
bladder from draining during orgasm.
Problems
Women have Ejaculating
I think there are two major problems women face that prevents them from the
immensely enjoyable experience of ejaculation. They are the female's mental
attitude, and their partners inability or unwillingness to spend the time
and effort during lovemaking and to learn the necessary techniques. We will
address both of these problems and the solutions here.
The ejaculation is done through the urethra. This is the same tube that is
used for urination. It is located outside the vagina, between it and the
clitoris. The fluid is water like, and non- lubricating. In no way does
ejaculation improve the chances of conceiving, it offers no lubrication, and
is dumped outside of the vagina. The only conceivable purpose of female
ejaculation is for pleasure. And the pleasure is intense, in many cases far
surpassing the best orgasm's. Often ejaculation takes place during both a
clitoral and a vaginal orgasm (yes there are two type of orgasms, clitoral
and vaginal, but often orgasm is a combination of the two), giving the
female extreme pleasure, sort of a triple whammy. Sometimes after
ejaculation the female will virtually pass out from the intense feelings.
It can be argued
that since the only reason that females can and do ejaculate is for
pleasure, then there should be no reason for them to not do so, and as
often as they please. It is one of the safer sex acts, since in most cases
it can be triggered with fingers alone. Ejaculating from intercourse is
more difficult, especially when performed from the missionary position,
but still possible.
Preparation Recommendations for the Woman's
Partner
Wash hands well.
Trim fingernails. Make sure that the thumb, and first two finger nails do
not extend past the fingertips. Trimming them as far back as possible
would be best. Make sure that there is no dirt or crud under the
fingernails.
Place a towel on the bed. A surprising amount of fluid can
be released during female ejaculation. Compared to a male it can be like a
water cannon instead of a water pistol.
Have some K&Y
Jelly handy. At some point additional lubrication may be necessary, even
if she is having heavy orgasms and climaxes.
Set aside enough
time. The first successful ejaculation may take from 10 minutes to over an
hour.
It may be wise to
exercise your hands, fingers, and arm for several days prior to this
exercise. The motions necessary can become quite tiring after a while if
you are not in good physical shape.
Before beginning
the first time, discuss it. Let her know that you are striving to give her
an ejaculation. That female ejaculation is perfectly normal, and a
wonderful experience for both of you. Convince her that there is nothing
to be embarrassed about or ashamed of. Explain that just prior to
ejaculation, she most likely will feel like she is about to pee. This is a
difficult point for many women, as they will immediately draw back.
Convince her that it is normally impossible to pee during an orgasm, and
that the feeling is simply the first sign she is about to ejaculate.
Since the movement of the fluid through the urethra
will initially feel exactly like when she starts to pee, this is very
important. The reflex to stop peeing will immediately abort the
ejaculation, so she needs to be told to relax, and allow the fluid to
pass. In other words when she feels like she is about to pee, she should
go ahead and pee. Only it really won't be pee, it will be an ejaculation,
and within a couple of seconds it will be very obvious to her that this is
something quite different. Once she knows the feeling, she will be able to
push it out once it starts, with astounding results. It is best for the
partner to be sitting between her legs at this time, else she may
overshoot the towel or even wet the far wall.
Once she has ejaculated, rejoice with her. Don't make fun, or a joke. If
you do it may be the last time she will be able to ejaculate, at least in
your presence. Unlike a man, this is not the end. You can continue, and
she may well have multiple orgasms and ejaculations with further
stimulation. Technique
Start slow. Use typical foreplay. You may want to start
with her on her back. Stimulate the clitoris. This can be done with a
moist finger, or with your tongue. Performing cunnilingus while rubbing
her breasts with your hands can be quite stimulating for her. At any rate,
continue clitoral stimulation until she is lubricated. At this point slide
two fingers into her vagina. Allow them to move along the front wall of
the vagina. You should encounter an area about 2 inches in, which should
be somewhat enlarged. This is the G spot. It lies directly along the
urethra, and is located almost directly behind the clitoris. Slowly stroke
this area. It should start becoming more enlarged.
Ejaculation is almost always triggered by stimulating the G spot. Clitoral
stimulation can often assist in helping her reach an ejaculation, and also
can make it more intense. But stimulating the G spot is usually necessary
at least initially. Once she starts ejaculating easily, she may find that
clitoral stimulation alone is sufficient.
Stroking can be done a number of ways. The two fingers can rub the area as
a unit, or they can take opposite strides, similar to walking. A third
method involved sliding the two finders out a fraction of an inch, and
pushing them back in, similar to the in- out motion of intercourse, but
with smaller strokes. Initially pace the stimulation somewhat slow.
Alternate with clitoral stimulation either with the thumb, other hand, or
mouth/tongue. Also try simultaneous stimulation of the clitoris and G
spot. Watch her reactions.
Simultaneous may be too intense for some but necessary for ejaculation for
others. Take your cues from her. When she starts bearing down, and you
feel the vagina contract, begin pumping rapidly. When she is in the middle
of an orgasm, stimulate the clitoris at the same time, and pump the G spot
gently, but very rapidly. Talk to her. Say, "your getting it, go for
it, don't worry, relax and let it come" or other similar words. She
may need reassurance that if she drenches you, you will not be upset. Tell
her how erotic you find it for her to ejaculate. Make her comfortable with
both you, and the idea of ejaculation.
This actually is not the best position. If she does not succeed after a
short time, have her roll over on her stomach, and get up on her knees.
You will find stimulating the G spot much easier in this position, and she
will most likely respond much better. With the two fingers turned down,
slide your two fingers back into her vagina. Find the G spot and continue
stimulating the G spot. You may use the other hand to stimulate the
clitoris. If after a couple of orgasms, using rapid pumping on the G spot
during orgasm, she still has not ejaculated, then turn the hand around,
putting the thumb into the vagina.
The thumb will likely not reach the G spot, but don't worry, it should
come up to meet the thumb during orgasm. Take the two fingers and lay them
down on the clit. Allow the entire curve between the thumb and forefinger
to lie along her from the vagina to her clitoris, and begin pumping with
the thumb, and rubbing the clit at the same time. When she starts an
orgasm, start pumping the entire hand rapidly. At this point she will most
likely ejaculate. The trick is to massage the area where the urethra comes
out, while stimulating the clitoris and G spot. This will help to override
the feeling she is about to pee, and allow her to let it pass.
Be aware that the female is not only capable of multiple orgasms, but also
multiple ejaculations. It is not unusual for her to have from 3 to 5
ejaculations before depleting her supply of cum. Once she has ejaculated
one or more times, you can continue with intercourse. Entering from behind
will stimulate the G-spot more easily than missionary style, and often
additional ejaculations will occur during intercourse. Even if they don't,
she will be highly excited, and very sensitive. The final result will most
likely be the most intense and pleasurable sex she has ever had.
I highly recommend "The G Spot" for further reading. Footnotes:
1) Regnier de Graal, "New Treatise Concerning the Generative Organs
of Women", p. 107
2) Alice Kahn Ladas, Beverly Whipple and John D. Perry, "The G
Spot" page 59. Dell Publishing 1982. |
