Tongue Techniques
Now we’ll discuss some of the different
tongue techniques you can use on your partner. For this section I’ve done some
research and compiled suggestions from people I know as to what works and why. I can only
provide insight from the receiving point of because to date I haven’t been on the
giving end of cunnilingus.
One of the key points here is to remember to
make sure that the clitoris and the vulva are sufficiently lubricated before you start
touching them. With the tongue this is pretty easily accomplished. If you need to, gather
up a little bit of spit in your mouth and gently drop it down onto your partner’s
sensitive area. I have found that the heat from the saliva dropping onto my clitoris and
vulva to be very erotic.
You can create a wide variety of strokes and
responses just by altering the manner in which you use your tongue. It’s a most
versatile tool and it’s totally free! You couldn’t ask for more.
I’m not going to go into elaborate
detail here and suggest that if you fold your tongue around a certain way to stimulate
your partner it will have the desired effect. I’m going to give you some more general
ideas with which you can then experiment with and find what works best for you and your
partner.
You don’t want to head straight for the
clitoris with your tongue; your best bet is to start by licking around the area. Stick
your tongue between the folds of the labia and lick. Start at the perineum (found just
below the vaginal opening) and lick upward in one long stroke. Much like a cat does when
cleaning itself. Now you can either do one of two things, lick so that your tongue comes
up and brushes over the clitoris or stop just short of it. Either way I’m sure that
your partner will start to squirm.
Another stroke that you can use when
you’ve teased her sufficiently is to lap at the clitoris with a pointed tongue –
much like a cat lapping at milk would do. This is a stroke that can be used when
she’s very close to orgasm to push her over the edge. You can speed up the rate of
the lapping or slow it down, or combine slow and fast in any rhythm of your choosing. Just
remember to listen to your partner’s responses so that you know whether she’s
enjoying the sensations or you’re totally pissing her off.
If you’re feeling adventuresome then
there are a couple of other things that you can try if you are so inclined. One of them is
to try dipping your tongue into your partner’s vaginal opening. You can vary the
depth of the thrusts and the speed.
The other thing you can do is to put your fingers to good use. My
recommendation would be to use the fingers once you know she’s fully excited and you
can sometimes tell this by the way her hips are bucking up and trying to push hard against
your face. I know that I sure like the
feeling of having the fingers of my partner’s fingers thrusting in and out of my
pussy while he is sucking on my clit at the same time. It’s a most wonderful feeling
and makes me cum very quickly.
Another good place to use your fingers while
sucking and licking your partner’s pussy would be to lubricate them and gently rub
around the opening to the anus. There are a lot of nerve endings there and many women
enjoy that type of stimulation. If your partner is into it you may even be able to insert
the tip of your finger into the anus. If your partner is not one who enjoys this type of
stimulation then stop if she requests you to.
Some women will be quite happy to stop at
one orgasm, while others will want as many as you can give them. It has been my experience
that successive orgasms require a little more aggressive touch and stimulation. I have
also found that there comes a point when the clitoris is so over stimulated that you might
feel like you can possibly have another orgasm or that the clitoris is just too sensitive
to touch. If your partner is finding that her clitoris is too sensitive she will be sure
to let you know that in no uncertain terms!
That’s the basics to the art of cunnilingus. If you’d
like to contribute suggestions or ideas please feel free to do so. They will be added to
the bottom of this tutorial as they are received |
