Female Masturbation Techniques


Ok ladies, let’s have a look at some different techniques that will work to get you off. The majority of women, myself included can only attain orgasm through manual stimulation. There are a few who can achieve orgasm through intercourse alone and I’m jealous of them. Anyway, here are some techniques that might add a little variety to your masturbation play.

Direct clitoral stimulation:

Rolling, rolling, rolling – ok, for this technique you need to place your thumb and forefinger around the clitoris and gently roll it in between your fingers. You can start off with a slow gentle roll and then gradually pick up the pace and the pressure according to what feels good to you.

Circular rub – I generally find that if I am in a hurry this technique works wonders. Just take your first two fingers from either hand and place them over top of you clitoris. Then begin moving them in a circular motion over top of the clitoris. You can vary the speed and pressure easily with this technique. I find that if I use this one I can reach orgasm in under a minute. If you want to change the feel slightly just add your favourite lube and everything becomes very slippery.

Tapping – This technique is a little different and it’s not for everyone, as with anything some things will work for some people and not for others. For this one I use my left hand to pull the pussy lips back out of the way so that the clitoris is very exposed. Then with my index finger on my right hand I lightly begin tapping the fingertip gently on the clitoris. It results in a very delicious sensation that builds to a point where you just can’t hold it back anymore.

Combination – There is nothing that gets me wetter faster than using a combination of both hands. Have your fingers from one hand playing with your clitoris, stimulating it however you wish. Take the other hand and place two or three fingers inside your vagina and begin thrusting. Basically you’re simulating intercourse with this action and it works rather nicely in tandem with the clitoral stimulation and can bring you to a rocking orgasm!


Water is your friend. It can be used in a multitude of ways to get you off! Try these out. Please avoid sending strong streams of water directly into your vagina as that can be potentially dangerous.

Running Water – I’m sure you’ve all stuck your hands under the water flow when you’re filling the tub for your bath to check the temperature of the water. Now, just imagine that same water flow landing on your clitoris. It’s a wild feeling. This is the first way that I ever got off, before I even realized what it was that it was doing. The only thing you need for this one is some time and a bathtub. Hopefully your bathtub will be shaped properly so that you can slide your butt down against the end of the tub and position yourself so that the water flow will land on your clitoris. It’s best to start of with a lighter water flow and gradually work up to a higher pressure flow. Make sure that you test the warmth of the water before sticking your pussy under it, wouldn’t want to get scalded in that area!

Water Spray – this on is just a bit of a variation on the one above. In this instance just place your thumb or finger over the faucet and then direct the spray so that it falls directly on your clitoris.

Shower Massage – this is a great one if you’ve got one of those Shower Massage devices because you can pick whether it pulses or comes out in a steady spray. There are many options. You’ll have to experiment with them to see what works best for you. Here again, you can adjust the pressure and temperature of the spray to whatever you’d like them to be. I’ve found on occasion that using cold water produces a different feeling than the warm water.

Jacuzzi Jive – If you’re lucky, you will have private access to a Jacuzzi and you’ll be able to take advantage of the water flow from the jets! This is one to be careful with since the flow of water from the jets has considerably more pressure behind it than that from the shower or bathtub. My recommendation is to start a fair distance back from the jets and then move yourself closer to find the pressure level that works for you. All you need to do is position yourself so that the water flow lands directly on your vagina and clitoris. Once you’ve found the right spot let yourself go and enjoy the warm water and indulge in a little fantasy.

Good Vibrations:

Vibrators are handy little gadgets and in my opinion every woman should have one tucked away in a drawer for those moments when you really need it. Vibrators are primarily used for clitoral stimulation but can also be used vaginally or anally if you prefer. You can try different combinations out to see which you like best.

Clit rub – Vibrators are great for clitoral control since you can change alter the speed of the vibration easily and bring yourself to the edge and then slow it down again. Pressure is a key factor as well. You may also want to try rubbing the vibrator over your inner thighs and around your pussy lips and even up over your nipples. Masturbation doesn’t have to be confined to just the clitoral area.


A good dildo will provide you with hours of entertainment for when you’re going solo or even when you’ve got a partner to play with. It’s well worth the money to spend and get a good one that’s going to last for a long time. You want to make sure that the surface is easily cleaned. Some of the latex ones had pores in them which made them very difficult to keep clean. There’s some really cool gel dildos on the market these days. Check out your local love shop and see what they have to offer. Don’t be afraid to ask questions.

External Stimulation – using the dildo on the outside of your body is probably the easiest way to do things to start off with. Here are a couple of ideas to get you started, first of all apply some lube to the dildo and lay it flat on a hard chair. Then if you position yourself above it and sit down so that the dildo runs the full length from the crack of your ass all the way up to your clit and slide yourself back and forth on it. This will provide all kinds of stimulation.

Head – You can also use the head of the dildo, it’s shaped pretty much like the real thing, and rub it against your clitoris. By applying pressure and moving the head over your clitoris in an up and down or circular motion you can provide great stimulation to the clit. The more pressure you apply the faster you will come. On the other hand just using light pressure will take you longer to reach the climax but the result will be a more intense orgasm. For better control, you may find it easier to use two hands to grip the dildo.

Internal Stimulation – The dildo also does a wonderful job when inserted into the vagina as well. Such a multipurpose kind of toy. <smile> One of the things you need to consider is the size of your dildo, it doesn’t have to be a huge monster to be effective. Simply find one that is wide enough to be snug inside your vagina and longer than what you need to insert as you have to have something to hold onto. Find a comfortable position to be in while you play. Insert the dildo into your vagina and then begin moving it in an in and out fashion. Depth of the thrusts is entirely dependent on how you feel, and the sensation will be different at different depths. Once you’ve established a bit of a rhythm start rubbing or stroking your clitoris in time with the strokes. If you want something a little different try positioning the dildo so that when it moves in and out it will pull a bit and stimulate the clitoris that way.

Double Up – Dildos come in many shapes and flavors so you can get whatever you’d like. You might want to consider purchasing a dual dildo. This will enable you to insert one end into your vagina and the other end into your anus. This way you have double the thrusting pleasure while you stimulate your clit. You can also combine the use of a vibrator in one spot and a dildo in the other. If you were feeling adventurous you could place a vibrating butt plug in your anus and a vibrator in your vagina and stimulate your clit with your fingers. The combinations are only limited by your imagination.

Odds N Ends:

Accessories – Some are other accessories that you would have lying around the house that can provide some interesting stimulation are pieces of furniture and cushions or pillows. An ottoman works nicely for example if you position yourself over it so that a corner of it pushes on your clitoris when you move back and forth. For an extra buzz, trying lifting your hands and feet off the ground when you cum. I haven’t personally tried this although it’s supposed to give you the feeling of flying

Thigh Squeeze – There are women out there who can achieve orgasm by simply squeezing or rubbing their thighs together. This stimulates the clitoris indirectly. It would be a great skill to have, then if you were out in public and found yourself getting horny you could just take care of it by squeezing your thighs together, no one would be any the wiser, except maybe those people who are reading this. So the next time you see a woman with her legs crossing and perhaps kicking her foot to hide the fact that she’s grinding her thighs together you’ll have to wonder what she’s really doing.

This technique will take a bit of practice to get it down to a fine art, but that’s half the fun of learning new stuff is the practice. When you masturbate at home, make it a habit to press your thighs together when you have an orgasm. After you’ve done this a few times it will become second nature to you. Once you’ve mastered this then try pressing your thighs together when you’re ready to orgasm and won’t be able to stop it but haven’t actually climaxed yet. Take your hands away and leave it to your legs to ride yourself over the top. This isn’t going to work instantly, you may have a few attempt that die painfully but eventually it will all come together and you will be pleased with the results. Sooner or later with the help of fantasy and association you should be able to proceed using only your thighs from earlier and earlier in the masturbation. Sounds like fun to me!

This is from one of my readers.
I just wanted to say that I have been one of those lucky ones who can cross her legs and come and I have an extra tip for those who like that exhibitionistic thrill of having an orgasm in public with all sorts of people around - this technique works much better when your bladder is full!. It increases the "inside pressure" on the clitoris. Beware though, after the orgasm, you really feel the need to pee!
(many thanks to leoK for this extra tip)

Tennis Anyone? - This one was sent in to me by one of my readers and it's so cool. I'm just going to paste in her description for you. The way I have gotten myself off since as far back as I can remember, is by using a tennis ball.  I lay on my stomach and place the ball between my legs pressing against my clitoris.  My legs are together and crossed at the ankles. I then begin to squeeze my inner thighs together and work the ball in a humping motion so that it is pressing against my clitoris.  As I climax I continue to squeeze with my thighs.   This is a very quick way to get off and I usually get multiple orgasms this way.
(many thanks to Baynut38)

Panties for You? - This is another great suggestion from one of my readers. Once again I am just going to paste in her description for you rather than paraphrasing it.
All my life (after the very first time when I used the backside of a tablespoon) I've used my panties to masturbate.  Basically I tug them up into my crack, both front and back, and then tug on the front just over my clitoral area.  Positioning of the cloth is important- it needs to be spread rather evenly over the clit so it doesn't become painful- and of course the cloth itself.  I've torn up quite a few pairs of panties!   There are some advantages to using panties.  Tugging really creates a sensation of pushing against the clit, and around back the cloth is being pulled against the anus, stimulating it as well.  The same applies to, say, masturbating with slacks or even jeans. (thanks Michelle)





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